Most lucky women have had at least one enjoyable back breaking sexual experience with a very well endowed man. I’ll never forget my first one and how addicted I became to him and his member. After we broke up, I will admit that I was on the hunt for another “large and in charge” man…much to my disappointment I found another large man but he was far from in charge. After a string of conquests and relationships I came to realize that the man I had originally with the huge penis who knew exactly how to use it was something of a Unicorn and that all large dicks are not created equal. In fact, no two dicks are equal and when it comes to great sex there is a lot more than size that matters. It is about time a member of the lady tribe be completely honest about how we really feel about dick size and how y’all use what you have. We’ve heard, read and had the discussion “Does Size Matter?” way too many times therefore I won’t discuss what we ladies think about your size because there isn’t anything you men can really do about that without surgery besides size is a subjective topic. Instead I’ll discuss things men are doing wrong, things that some men are doing very well and what the ladies can do to help. Remember, I want you to be great so I never focus strictly on the negatives…I’d rather be the one starting the conversation that leads to open discussions among the sexes which help us all be great instead of that negative chic who points fingers.
::steps to the plate:: Ready?
Ladies, raise your hand if you have had sex with a fellow with a big one that had two strokes and absolutely nothing else going for him other than his size? ::raises hand:: I call that “Big Dick Syndrome”. BDS is when a heavily endowed man doesn’t have adequate stroke techniques. The Biggies usually have one of two problems…either they are a Pounder or a Dipper.
- Pounders, are the large dudes that fuck their lady hella hard in every imaginable position with one goal…hitting the back of the box repeatedly until she feels it in her back and ovaries. Now, don’t get it wrong fellas we ladies don’t mind getting our backs worked out but deeper and deepest does not a stroke repertoire make. You Pounders need to learn to take your time, work the dick around the va-jay-jay and especially learn to take visual and auditory clues from your girl about when she wants it all and when she isn’t quite okay with you all the way in. There is NOTHING worse than a Pounder who thinks he is doing the damn thing by beating the pussy up and has no clue that homegirl checked out the act before it was even done. Yes, you have a big huge dick we get it. The lady tribe would like for you to learn some new tricks. Wondering why women keep cutting you loose…no chic wants to be with the dude that has a huge one and isn’t attune to his lovers needs!
- Dippers, are the large dudes who fuck with fear limiting them. I don’t know how y’all get like this…maybe the sheer size of your rod scares even you and you are afraid to hurt someone with it or some chic cried after you put it on her but you’ve now become the dude that dips it instead of sticking it. I’ve had several girlfriends tell me after an encounter with a Dipper, “Girl, he was so big and it was feeling so good then he backed off only giving me part of the dick.” Don’t be that dude! Next time you are in the bedroom don’t be afraid to keep going with those strokes she keeps moaning to…you aren’t hurting her she likes it and please, yes, use most of that rod…if not all.
I promise you won’t break anything inside of your woman but if fear of hurting her is still making you think twice setup a “safe” word with your girl. Instead of worrying if her moans are a signal of pain or pleasure you’ll have a word that alerts you that she wants you to ease up or stop. Give it a try and soon you and your girl will be enjoying the FULL potential of your member!
Ladies, raise your hand if you have had sex with a fellow with an average sized dick that you couldn’t get enough of. ::raises hand:: Bigger isn’t always better. In fact, an average attentive fucker is way better than a man with BDS. I’m not just stroking the egos of you men with average members…the Lady Tribe has given their seal of approval to men who can work what they have…where else do you think the saying, “It’s not the size of the boat but the motion in the ocean.” came from? Now let’s discuss what Mr. Attentive Fucker with an average sized dick gets right…
- What I called him says it all, this dude is attentive. This is the dude who is super in tune with his lover…from her breathing and the way she squirms to her moans and “spots”. This is the man who needs no safe word because he knows which moans are a signal of more and which ones are a signal of less. He watches for what she likes and is willing to have a go at it even if it isn’t his favorite stroke because he wants to give her a good time. He’s attentive and confident which makes the women he has sex with feel extremely sexy and comfortable. There is NOTHING in the world like a man who can make a woman feel sexy and comfortable in the bedroom…NOTHING! The lady tribe appreciates these men no matter how low on the average end his dick is because this man uses what he has to please all of her. What that means is that Mr. Attentive Fucker gets that sex for us women is about more than our vaginas and if you can get us to get out of our heads during sex and into the moment you as a man have struck gold!
- Mr. Attentive Fucker’s made his girl feel sexy and comfortable…he knows what she likes and gives it all a try…yeah, you heard that but you’re wondering what does she appreciate about an average dick? It’s average what can be good about it? From talking to my girls and my own personal experiences it seems that when compared to huge dudes average men have more developed stroke techniques because they aren’t strictly relying on their size to deliver. While he’s in there working it he is big enough to reach the right spots yet small enough to deliver the right combination of pressure, pleasure and pain. Yes, your average sized dick is appreciated…if you are an Attentive Fucker!
So, I’ve covered things that big dicks could do better and things that average dicks do well but what about us ladies? Is there anything we could do to improve things in the bedroom for men? Why yes, there are a few but today I’m going to talk about the most vital one…
Ladies, please stop talking about big dick this big dick that! It doesn’t help men’s egos at all. All men have some penis envy or insecurity just like we all have some body part that we are slightly insecure about. Stressing dick size is only going to make your man or the men who hear the chatter about dick size feel like maybe they won’t be able to fill that magnum to the Lady Tribe’s standard. Especially don’t do that shit around your man or soon he will wonder about his ability to satisfy you! If you want to talk about size then let’s open the forum to men talking about your tightness and wetness because just like all dicks aren’t equal all pussies aren’t either!
I hope this post helps get women and men beyond the “Does Size Matter” discussion and onto what really works and doesn’t work when it comes to dick size. Of course I didn’t cover everything and of course I’ll blog about those things in the future but for now…
…Thanks for reading! I hope you have a great Hump Day filled with SexLoveJoy!
