These days I hear a lot of talk about how women should be the ones making the first move with men…
If a woman is interested in a man she shouldn’t be afraid to approach him.
Women who go for what they want GET what they want!
A man sometimes won’t make the first move because he doesn’t know if she’d be interested in him or not but he won’t have a problem with the woman pursuing him.
To choose him or not choose him? That is not the question. While being the one to approach and pursue does work for some women I see things otherwise. I don’t pursue men. At. All. I let them come to me but once things do get to the sexual level you best believe I will treat a man according to his status! The ones I REALLY want I mount! Never not once has any man that I TRULY wanted to be with had the opportunity to be in any other spot than under me the first time he penetrated me. I sat here the other day going through all my erotic stories, the written and unwritten ones, in my head until an obvious pattern brought me to the conclusion that I mount the ones I really want to lay a claim on (pun intended). It was something my subconscious mind did but now that I know I wonder if it is my way of showing that I really want him. I won’t go after a man but if I truly want him once we get naked I’ll mount him?!?
The truth is that I, like most women, know in an instant if I want a man or not. I make sure to never be obvious with my words that it is him I want instead my body language tells the story for me opening the door for him to pursue. If it turns out that he isn’t partner material then my “ain’t shit” side comes out and I make sure to cut to the chase and allow him to take it straight to the sex. When we do have sex he will definitely be in charge. He isn’t worthy enough to be mounted at least not the first time he penetrates me so I make sure to let him have at it. I implicitly want him to give his best performance as he pleases, make it do what it does and if the entire fuckship (a relationship with the intention of sexual gratification) falls apart…oh, well! Why let the ones I don’t want to keep around be in charge and treat me like their toy from the jump? Because you men serve as toys for us ladies too and frankly…we don’t give a fuck about you either.
Now in the cases that the man is actually good for me…he has always made sure to be obvious about his interest AND intent, I always kept my interest “in check” allowing for him to “win” me over, and by the time things got to the bedroom he has felt that I was giving into his wishes but then I’d take over. There I was giving in to him but instead of letting him take it from me I’d be the one taking him into me in control of him during that first penetration. He choose to pursue me, he kept at it by any means necessary, he won the right to get what he always wanted but it is mine to give! I give it my way…me on top, in control, him below, eyes wide open, this girl likes to be in charge, he better relax to enjoy the rider and lemme hold his hands down while I’m at it.
I don’t lead horses to water. I don’t choose any of my men. Ever. I will mount the man I want to keep…digging my spurs in…giving him a clearer signal from this rider!
