I make cooking a special occasion as often as I can. I put my mind, heart, body and soul into making meals for my family. I wake up early on Saturday mornings to pick the freshest organic produce at the Farmer’s Market. I make almost daily trips to my local butcher to make sure the meats I cook are the best cuts available. I plan big lavish meals days in advance, making sure that I have all the ingredients I need. Then on the day of that meal, I allow enough time in my day to enjoy even the most mundane prep work. I am known for cooking in stilettos as if I were out on the town even when I’m just cooking up a quick lunch.
Cooking is a sensual art for me that I take very seriously. I do my best cooking when I create the time and space for great meals to slowly come together step by step or when I instantly answer my palate’s desire for a particular flavor and allow it to take me on an impromptu food journey. As long as I am relaxed, prepared and in the moment I can pour my mind, heart, body and soul into making flavorful meals.
For me there’s nothing worse than cooking while starving! That’s always been my opinion and the other day while on Twitter I saw that I wasn’t the only one that felt that way…
“I hate cooking when I’m starving then having no appetite when I’m done.
” – a friend tweeted
…not only do I have no appetite when I’m done but almost anything that I cook while starving tastes awful to me. I eat it to get past the terrible hunger pains that feel like they could kill me. Waiting to the point of gut-wrenching hunger makes me feel like a ravished animal eating because it has to not because it enjoys it. After I always feel dirty, guilty and disconnected from all that is good about food. The sensuality of food and cooking is lost upon me if I allow myself to wait that long before cooking then eating.
sex like food fuels you & starving for sex kills the sensuality of sex
You usually have a healthy fulfilling sexual relationship with yourself and/or someone else but for some reason life has gotten between you and getting some. You didn’t make a conscious choice to be asexual it is just that work, the house duties, possibly kids, and all your many responsibilities kept coming first and sex got pushed further and further out of the picture. You try to remember when the last time you went several rounds that left you breathless and satiated but you can’t remember. You frankly can’t even remember the last time you masturbated.
It has been a long long time and now you’re starving for it!
just about any sex will do when you’re deprived!?
Have you ever gone food shopping when you’re so hungry you barely can see straight? Most of your food choices in those moments probably tend to be high fat items or empty calorie foods. At least mine are.
In your worst times often you don’t cultivate your sexual relationships as much as you should; it gets you to the point where you are sex starved. Then one day you remember to have sex for the sake of sex – sex that never satisfies. It is Git-R-Done sex that easily becomes the only sex you have. Why? Because you don’t want to go without sex but you are too tired and too lazy to work on creating room for sensuality, intimacy or working on your emotional bonds.
Git-R-Done Sex becomes your fast food!
It isn’t news to anyone that eating fast food all the time causes heart disease and many other physical ailments. Right? Well it shouldn’t surprise you either that having sex for the sake of not going without isn’t the best thing for your heart or relationship. Sex becomes stale when you stop working on it. Sensuality begins to die slowly when sex is void of it and all about the physical act.
work at making sure that sex is sensual
Make sex a special occasion as often as you can. Put your mind, heart, body and soul into having sex. Wake up early in the morning just to have enough time to share a fuck and a cup of coffee with your lover. Make flirting with your partner a daily thing. Plan a night in which you can make extra time to enjoy sex slowly bit by bit. Then on the day of your sex date, allow for enough time in your day so that the mundane tasks don’t get in the way. Be known for something extravagant that you bring to everyday sex that most people would save for special occasions. Allow yourself to get carried away with desire for your partner no matter how tired you are; ride that unexpected sexual wave to wherever it takes you!
Relax, prepare and in the moment pour your mind, heart, body and soul into having sex and you’ll never feel starved again!
