If you are single, and you are 27 years of age or older, you must, I repeat, YOU MUST put your sexy forward at all times when you are interested in somebody. Gone are the days when you could afford to be ONLY girl-next-door-cutesy where you could just bat your eyes, and the boy would get the hint. He’s not gonna send you a note asking “Do you like me? Check _______yes ________no _______maybe.”
I was chatting with my homegirl Tina she was telling me about how she was interested in this guy, they’d hung out a few times, thing seemed cool and they went on like one PROPER date, but for the most part, she hung out with him while he was hanging out with a bunch of his friends. Sounds good, right? Tina was really feeling dude, and nothing else really happened since then.
So I asked her a very straight forward question. I asked her
“Do you feel like you put your sexy forward?”
She did not respond. Surpreese Surpreese.
Putting your sexy forward is like, super DUPER important.
He is only going to know you are interested if he is attracted to you. Everybody can say WHATEEEEEVER it is they want about “You need to be attracted to more than someone’s aesthetic you need to pay attention to their mind….beauty fades…” . That’s all well and good but at the end of the day someone can be as smart as they want or as funny as they want but if their knock knock jokes don’t end with you wanting to drop your panties on the floor, what’s the point? Biologically, we’re supposed to get with someone for the purpose of procreation. Procreation requires sex. Sex requires some level of attraction unless you’re out there working hard for the money. AAAOOOOW!!!! Get it!.
Besides, putting your sexy forward does NOT automatically mean everyone has to look like a calendar model or pin up girl. Putting your sexy forward is about realizing whatever your best trait whether it is confidence, smarts, or sense of humor, and letting the world see it. At the same time, let’s be real, you need to be attracted to the person in order for what you have or are building to have any type of real longevity. For me, putting my sexy forward means if I’m going on a date, I’m going to dress in a fashion that accentuates my best assets. I am not saying to show up in full-on cougar/video “model” attire. Please do not show up to your in-real-life date with an online hookup in a leopard print bustier cut-down to your navel and leggings AND clear heels and blame me for it. There is a BIG difference between putting your sexy forward and putting your slut forward. Not knocking putting your slut forward, but there is a time and a place for everything. Your 1st date with your coworker’s brother-in-law is not the time to put your slut forward.
Put your sexy forward.
You have a pretty face? You have nice eyes? Don’t go on a date with bangs all long and in your face. Don’t wear makeup that looks like Mimi from the Drew Carey Show did it for you.
If you have a nice rack, wear something that shows off your décolletage tastefully. (Dipping just above your nipple is NEVER tasteful.)
You have nice legs? Wear some pants that show off the length and curves. Skinny jeans and heels are always a win. NOT the super tight blue paint pants that look like leggings with pockets.
If you have several good features, just pick one to show off on this date. Please don’t have your rack AND your legs all out. Sheesh…Now you’re back to cougar-style.
If the person does not know you’re attracted to them, ‘cause you’re chopping it up with them like one of the homies, then guess what? They’re going to treat you like one of the homies. When you go on a date, dress the part you want to play in this person’s life. Don’t be too grown to flirt, to smile to do all the girly things feminism taught us we were supposed to hate but that drive men crazy. If you’ve got hair, flip it. Enjoy your food and savor some bites slowly. Hell, feed your date if you’re so inclined. Check your stockings by extending your leg. Bite your bottom lip. Do something in some minor and ladylike way that you are a sexual being. Confirm for him that though prissy, you can also be a sexual creature. I GUARANTEE you will have awesome results.
You’re grown. You should understand the difference between putting your slut forward and putting your sexy forward. If you aren’t, get at me. I can give you a tutorial.
SMOOCHES!!!
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