posts tagged ‘friendships’

  1. Cancer by The Waxer

    February 6, 2012 by The Waxer

    Cancer.

    What an ugly word.  Unwanted.  Darkness.  Epidemic.  Misery.  Burden.  Disease.  Pain.  Sickness.  Unhappiness.  Destruction.  Poison.  Infectious.  Agony.  Heartache.  Deadly.

    Cancer. I hate just saying the word.  Cancer.  My stomach churns.  Cancer.  My lower back and spine start to hurt.  Cancer.  It sends shivers down my entire body.  Cancer.  I shutter in fear.  Cancer.  And every time I speak it, I’m faced with it’s reality…

    I don’t know what I would do if I lost her.  I think about it all the time.  I’ve been attempting to stay positive, at least that’s what everyone thinks.  Cheerful to those on the outside looking in towards me.  ”There she is” they think.  ”She’s got such an interesting way of looking at life.  Such a positive outlook.  Such a free spirit.  Such an open soul.”  And I smile back.
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  2. Nobody Can Make It Out Here Alone by Dr. Phoenyx

    December 29, 2011 by Dr. Phoenyx

    What’s your biggest goal in life? What have you dreamed about since you were a little girl or a little boy? For me, it has always been one thing… becoming an author.

    This year, I finally achieved my greatest goal. I wrote my first book, If You Love It, It Will Grow: A Guide To Growing Long Afro-Textured Hair, which is set to publish February 2012.

    I sat down and wrote every single word of my 60,000 word manuscript. And I spent seemingly endless days locked in my home writing and revising- then writing and revising some more. But this project was not a one-woman show, not by a long shot. If not for the element of the human connection, I would not have found the inspiration for this book. Furthermore, without the help of others, I would not have been able to take a simple Word document and transform it to the beautiful book that is sitting on my bed as I type this post. From my editor, to my photographer, to my graphic designer, to my friends and my family- without the help and guidance of others, I would not have been able to make my lifelong dream a reality. (more…)

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  3. Loss by Wookiesgirl

    December 22, 2011 by WookiesGirl

    Loss.

    …such a small word and yet, for some, its meaning is unfathomably huge.  So much so, that it can be the only thing we see, feel and breathe.

    Today marks the two year anniversary of the death of my cousin, Jacob. He died as the result of a drug overdose. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of him. He is by far the biggest loss I’ve had in the last three years.

    I want to talk about what loss means to me, what it looks like and how it feels right at this moment.
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  4. The Definition of Me by Wookiesgirl

    September 12, 2011 by WookiesGirl

    I’ve had this idea poking at me for a while now. I’ve wanted to write a blog post in which I could define me for you. Not an easy task, since I am still figuring out exactly who I am.

     

    Do any of you truly know who you are? It’s something I wonder about. Do you really know yourself and can you be honest enough to bare your belly and show all?

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  5. my heart is sick of being in chains

    July 14, 2011 by Lidia-Anain

    Had a poignant conversation today with a new friend that I trust very much. A new friend that trusts me too. We have been confiding all sorts of things. We started sharing our dreams for our careers and we’ve moved to talking about our childhoods and mothers. My friend is beautiful on the outside but especially on the inside. My friend is balanced. My friend is smart. My friend is ambitious. My friend has it together. My friend is absolutely going places. I wish I was more like her but I am so extremely happy for her because the last thing I want is company in my misery. My friend is the me I could have been had I sought therapy and made better choices. (more…)

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  6. secrets + friendship

    July 11, 2011 by Lidia-Anain

    You don’t want to be the one they tell all their secrets to. You don’t want to be that friend that always gets to hear what they wouldn’t tell others. Through the years,  I have often been the first person to find out about this or that and although I am great at keeping secrets I don’t seem to be great at keeping the friends that tell me their secrets. I’ve learned that being the confidant puts you in danger of becoming the friend that gets dropped when they want to forget what they’ve said, thought or done. When a friend shares with me some deep dark secret I listen, place their secret deep in my memory never to be shared with anyone else then mark the day that I knew that friendship would end eventually. I have always wondered why these people grow apart from me especially when they trusted me so much. Why are friends quick to drop the friends that they confide in even if the friend has never betrayed their trust? (more…)

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  7. i have my own PMS. i don’t have to put up with yours!

    October 20, 2010 by Lidia-Anain

    I can’t tell you what it really is, I can only tell you what it feels like / …As long as the wrong feels right it’s like I’m in flight

    Those lyrics describe me at my worst when I’m in the midst of oppressive PMS. Yes, this post is about PMS and I think that if you have a set of testicles you should still stay around to read it. A couple of weeks ago I wondered openly on my Facebook page,

    I’m starting to believe that women while PMSing are as honest and mean as some Drunks. What do you guys think? Do the extra hormones cause some ladies to be looser with the truth? I want to hear your thoughts…working on a theory…

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  8. these are my kids and I got this!

    August 4, 2010 by Lidia-Anain

    If you are a mother and you tell me that every single night you go to bed without thinking of at least one thing you could have done better I am not going to believe you. I also won’t believe you if you say that you have never gone to bed completely exhausted wondering where your energy to fuel tomorrow will come from. There might be a real life Super Mom out there some place that can do it all while keeping a perfectly clean house, perfectly manicured nails all while working from home and homeschooling. (more…)

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  9. social networking making breakups messier than ever

    May 12, 2010 by Lidia-Anain

    Fifteen years ago, meeting and dating was very different from how it is today. Usually, meeting someone required physical proximity but now through the invention of social networks there is no physical proximity required to meet someone. The fact that he is Miami and you are in Seattle doesn’t prevent you from meeting or dating. On Twitter and Facebook you and your Boo connect virtually becoming a part of every aspect of each other’s lives, you don’t have to miss anything because most of us post everything. Skype replaces traditional phone calls letting you be together virtually in a much more intimate way. He hops a quick flight from time to time, you do the same and hey, the long distance relationship grew faster and is easier to maintain than ever! Indeed, social networking has changed some aspects of dating for the better but what about the parts it has made worse? As much as social networking has changed meeting and dating long distance for the better it has changed how couples interact with each other’s social circles during and after a relationship for the worst. (more…)

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  10. definition of friend and lover

    February 17, 2010 by Lidia-Anain

    Wrapping up this month’s topic…Can friends become lovers?

    How many of us have had friendships with someone then started having sex? A lot.

    It was very easy for me to define Fuck Buddy and B.U.D.D.Y. but defining a friend that becomes a lover is not something I or anyone can do for you. (more…)

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