I have always been a person that values honesty and respect so to me informed consent is a beautiful concept that at it’s core is all about honesty and respect. Informed consent can be applied to just about any aspect of life from making a purchase and entering into business contracts to surgery and having sex. When I worked in surgery, we always made sure that our patients had signed the proper consent forms before we performed any procedures on them. Patients had to not only sign informed consent forms but they also had to verify verbally to nurses and anesthesia that they understood the informed consent forms they had signed. To everyone working in the operating room informed consent is a must before proceeding! I think that informed consent should also be a must before entering into a sexual relationship with anyone whether casual or long-term because with sex just like surgery there are often consequences. Are you wondering what exactly informed consent is? (more…)
posts tagged ‘sexual health’
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reader question – feeling confident while your partner enjoys the sweet nectar of your lady flower!
March 21, 2011 by Lidia-Anain
Getting emails from readers always puts a huge smile on my face. I answer questions all the time but I have been hesitant to post the actual questions and my answers here publicly. Today, a reader sent me an email that was worded in a way that made me realize that maybe it was time to start sharing these questions and answers…especially, since I have answered very similar questions more than once.
Reader Email:
I’m new to your blog, and quite honestly, I’ve become obsessed. You touch on everything that has been on my mind lately, but I do have one request that I’m sure a lot of your readers would also like to know. That would be on the topic of oral sex performed on a woman. I hope that you address the issues of how a woman should look “down there” as well as how to be confident enough to look the man (or woman) in the eyes. Also, what if you’re shy about the way you look down there? Any confidence tips? (more…)
Filed Under: love & relationships, reader questions, sex & sexuality | Tagged: cunninglus, how to, masturbation, oral sex, pubic hair, reader questions, self-discovery, self-exploration, sexual health, vagina
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Even Sex Positivity Should Have Some Rules by Jamilah Lemieux
March 3, 2011 by Jamilah Lemieux
As you likely know already, sex positivity is a concept that is embraced by many of us who advocate for gender and sexual equality. It basically means that we wish to create spaces in which people are free to conduct their sexual lives in the ways that they see fit without judgment. The fact that women are still subject to many sexual double standards and are victimized by a global rape culture makes the need for sex positivity a great one and your feminist friends out here are trying to make it a more pervasive concept. It’s no good if we’re the only ones buying in; sex positivity can’t simply exist in small, counter cultural pockets- it needs globalization. (more…)
Filed Under: naked candor | Tagged: cheating, emotional health, guest posts, opinion, polyamory, promiscuity, sex-positive, sexual health, sexuality, sistertoldja
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Sugar IN your vagina is a NO NO! Here are 3 quick reasons why…
November 2, 2010 by Lidia-Anain
Last night when both my Twitter and Facebook streams overflowed with comments about one of the Housewives of Atlanta recommending sugar IN the vagina to make it taste sweet I wanted to crawl under a rock. After, the show went off the sugar in the vagina comments continued with actual intelligent women pondering putting sugar up into their va-jay-jays! That has to be the absolutely WORST advice you can give a woman!
(more…)Filed Under: sex & sexuality | Tagged: Real Housewives of Atlanta, sex education, sexual health, social commentary, sugar, urban myth, vagina
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female anti-rape condom with teeth that bites back!
June 23, 2010 by Lidia-Anain
Have you heard of the Rape-aXe anti-rape device?
According to their official website, the Rape-aXe is an anti-rape female condom embedded with shafts of sharp, inward-facing razor-sharp barbs invented by Sonnet Ehlers, a South African woman. If an attacker were to attempt vaginal rape, his penis would enter the latex sheath and be snagged by the barbs, causing the attacker excruciating pain during withdrawal and giving the victim time to escape. (more…)
Filed Under: sex & sexuality | Tagged: female condom, opinion, rape, sexual abuse, sexual health, sexuality, vagina