posts tagged ‘sexuality’

  1. A UNIFIED THEORY OF ORGASM by Clarisse Thorn

    October 20, 2011 by ClarisseThorn

    This is a guest post by Clarisse Thorn. It was originally published at the girl-power site Off Our Chests.

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    I CAN’T COME.

    and it’s poisoned

    every romance

    I’ve ever had.

    masturbating doesn’t work. I don’t know why. I tried therapy too, but my smart, understanding, sex-positive, open-hearted doctor couldn’t help. drugs while fucking? check. I date attentive men who only want to make me happy, but no matter how fantastic they make me feel, I can’t get off. and believe me, I like sex. I love sex! how can it feel so good and not end in an orgasm? I tried experimenting, and I sure do love the kink. it feels great. but doesn’t get me off. I’ve tried everything. everything.

    now I have the best boyfriend I’ve ever had. but just like every other one, he can’t get me off. big dick? oral sex? tons of foreplay? kink? it’s all there. nothing works. I used to lie to my boyfriends and say it was ok that I couldn’t get off. then at least they could enjoy sex without feeling guilty. but then they’d stop trying, of course. and this one is still trying … sometimes. I mean, it’s clearly never going to work. so I can’t blame him for not having the same passion for trying as he used to. and I keep thinking I should back off. after all, why put pressure on him to “perform”? he’ll just resent me if I keep asking for more, even if I’m gentle about it and compliment him and all that. since nothing he does works. it will never work. (more…)

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  2. a few good-at-sex-men

    October 17, 2011 by Lidia-Anain

    When I talk to my friends about their first sexual relationships some of them shudder then laugh. I’ve heard all sorts of stories from friends about why they had sex with the first few men. Their reasons range from wanting to lose their virginity and thinking it was the “next phase” of their relationships to wanting their boyfriends to love them and because they were afraid to lose the boyfriend they loved to another girl that would “put out”. Few of my friends have admitted that the reason why they had sex with the first few men in their lives was because they wanted to and they wanted to experience the pleasure of sex.  I guess that from the beginning I didn’t think about sex like my girlfriends did. (more…)

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  3. pleasure of pleasuring

    October 3, 2011 by Lidia-Anain

    With the right person in the right place at the right time doing all the right things that brings me great pleasure!

    When done properly and explored fully there is nothing more sensual than giving someone else pleasure. Although getting your partner to orgasm can bring you joy there is much more to attaining pleasure from pleasuring than bringing them to the moment of climax. Sight, touch, taste, smell and hearing the gateways to sexual euphoria should all be unlocked as you make love to your partner. Pleasuring involves respecting all the senses and learning what is the key that promotes pleasure through each. Exploring the intricate details of how to get each sense to bring your partner pleasure requires you to be more alert, receptive and responsive. Being alert, receptive and responsive to your partners sexual likes, dislikes, wants, and needs helps heightens your own sexual awareness. (more…)

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  4. sex sometimes changes. now fix it!

    September 28, 2011 by Lidia-Anain

    This January I wrote this piece as my way of venting but also stepping back from the situation I was experiencing. I wanted to ask myself if sex was more important to me than all the other things that my relationship offered. Sex and affection in general ARE very important to me. I know that my love language clearly is affection. I want to be touched, caressed, held, kissed, fondled, fucked, made love to and I also want the words of love that come with all that. I want to be thanked for my devotion, loyalty and hard work that I do within my relationship and for what I do for our children. I want him to do all this without me having to pout or for there to go days, weeks or months before we reconnect; sensually and sexually. (more…)

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  5. Sex::Tech 2011 and Scenarios USA

    April 1, 2011 by Lidia-Anain

    I am attending Sex::Tech 2011 conference today and tomorrow. What is the Sex::Tech conference? Well, according to their site it is:

    Sex::Tech 2011 is a two-day annual conference hosted by ISIS, Inc. that brings health and technology professionals together with youth, parents and community leaders to advance the sexual health of youth in the U.S. and abroad. Sex::Tech is the only conference event that showcases high-tech educational content (mobile, social media, Internet) developed by professionals, highlights national and local program successes, and puts youth leadership at the forefront.

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  6. The Mind of a Man – The Princess and the Whore by WisdomIsMisery

    March 10, 2011 by WisdomIsMisery

    I wrote a post on my site called the Good Girl vs. Bad Girl conundrum about the difficulty some men face, self-included, when differentiating between good girls and bad girls. We claim we want a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets but when one woman embodies both of these qualities? Deuces. Fellas, what up wit that?

    To make matters worse, men tend to pursue the lady and the freak separately, often looking for two women to play these respective roles instead of one. This flawed logic results in men who cheat or are unsatisfied with their so-called relationships, neither of which being an ideal outcome. (more…)

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  7. Even Sex Positivity Should Have Some Rules by Jamilah Lemieux

    March 3, 2011 by Jamilah Lemieux

    As you likely know already, sex positivity is a concept that is embraced by many of us who advocate for gender and sexual equality. It basically means that we wish to create spaces in which people are free to conduct their sexual lives in the ways that they see fit without judgment. The fact that women are still subject to many sexual double standards and are victimized by a global rape culture makes the need for sex positivity a great one and your feminist friends out here are trying to make it a more pervasive concept. It’s no good if we’re the only ones buying in; sex positivity can’t simply exist in small, counter cultural pockets- it needs globalization. (more…)

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  8. he likes new pussy. she likes new dick. so what?

    January 24, 2011 by Lidia-Anain

    Until the end of time arrives some men will continue to chase new pussy until they don’t want to get into new pussy anymore. Their egos become temporarily bloated because a new she gave into him. Their penises thank them each and every time they deliver new satin walls to play in. Plainly said those men enjoy the chase and triumph in the conquest. We know this because most men are open about what fuels their promiscuity yet the reasons given for why women are promiscuous are hidden and/or clouded in misjudgment.
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  9. dynamics of threesomes series – can’t get’em to join ya in a threesome? pay’em!

    January 7, 2011 by Lidia-Anain

    By the time men reach a certain age most of the ones who have yearned to be the center of a female-male-female threesome have but there are those who still feverishly yearn to have that experience. When it comes to threesomes there is no one more down and enthusiastic than the single male that has never had one. This guy’s mind constantly replays a soft pornographic scene where two women are lost in a field with nothing else to do but fondle titties, tongue kiss and playfully let their mouths roam south on one another until he and his valiant penis come to save them. Oh, how in the world would these damsels have gotten any real fucking done if he hadn’t walked in? (more…)

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  10. don’t choose him but DO mount him!

    December 15, 2010 by Lidia-Anain

    These days I hear a lot of talk about how women should be the ones making the first move with men…

    If a woman is interested in a man she shouldn’t be afraid to approach him.

    Women who go for what they want GET what they want!

    A man sometimes won’t make the first move because he doesn’t know if she’d be interested in him or not but he won’t have a problem with the woman pursuing him.

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